Sunday, November 8, 2009

Truth..or not?

     Seldom, very seldom, does complete truth belong to any human disclosure; seldom can it happen that something is not a little disguised or mistaken. - Jane Austen


     One of the most fascinating things to watch about any relationship is how a couple communicates. It is rare that you will find two people who will view something in the exact same way. What is truth to one, may not be to the other. Let's look at an example:


     Jill told her husband, Jake, she was going out for lunch with her mother. She spent 45 dollars on their meal, then another 25 on a new blouse she saw when they were walking by a shop on their way back. When Jill arrived at home later that evening, Jake was very angry and asked why she didn't tell him that she was planning on going shopping. He went on to argue how she knew that they didn't have any extra money for her to spend and though it was reasonable that she took her mother out, he felt Jill took advantage of the situation and used it as an excuse to do what she wanted and go shopping. Jill was somewhat shocked because she didn't believe that she had "lied" to her husband. She felt her purchase was an impulse buy, not something she had planned. Though it was true that she knew they didn't have a lot of extra money, Jill couldn't understand why he was accusing her of "lying". It's not as if she told him a "lie"...she just did more than she had expected.


     So...is Jake being unreasonable in his anger/frustration? Or...does he have some room to be that way? What do you think?

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